Sexy Is a State of Mind

I wonder how many women do not embrace their sexuality because they are self-conscious. Women are programmed from such a young age to believe that there is one set of ideal attributes, and any variations from that ideal are not desirable. Don't believe me? Grab a Cosmo and you can see it. The women all look very similar - tall, thin, unusually large breasts given their lack of body fat, perfect skin, luscious and full lips, flowing hair. This flawless representation makes women feel less than confident. How can most women compete? It is no wonder that so many women feel ill-at-ease with their bodies.

I have come to the conclusion that sexy is more of a state of mind than a set of physical attributes. To be sexy, one doesn't need to wear a short skirt or revealing clothes, one doesn't need to show skin or be a model. To be sexy, one needs to be confident and passionate.

I have a coworker who is beautiful by anyone's standards. She always looks great, no matter what the circumstances, and in addition she is caring and kind. Sadly, it seems as if she is oblivious to her own beauty. Minor problems, like a tiny pimple, make her feel terrible about herself. She has confessed that she feels that people stare at her 'big ass'. She acknowledges and is proud of her professional accomplishments, but she cannot seem to come to term with who she is physically. She has a beautiful exterior, and yet she is self-conscious. And because of this, even though she is beautiful, she really is not very sexy. No surprise that she regularly complains about her sex-life.

To her and women like her I say... be proud of who you are, be beautiful, be confident, don't be afraid to shake your booty or grab your man by the balls. If you want him to go down on you, tell him! If he doesn't do it right, tell him that too. Demand satisfaction, don't settle for less. Share your fantasies, and make them come true.

Here's to being sexy AND self-confident!