A Few of My Favorite Things

One of my readers recently messaged me through Pingbox and asked me to post my favorite BDSM-related gear. Here they are, in no particular order:


My all-time favorite D/s toy is the Feeldoe. The Feeldoe is a great alternative to the typical strap-on. It is convenient to use as I don't have to worry about putting on the harness for a strap-on in the middle of play. I can just slip the Feeldoe in and I am ready to go. I have used a number of different strap-ons and my Feeldoe offers significantly more control and certainly far more stimulation to my own body when I take j. It offers clitoral stimulation and vibrates via a small vibrator that can be removed. It's also super-easy to clean. It does require good pelvic control, but do your kegel exercises and you should be all set for a wonderful experience!


The Hitachi Magic Wand is a must-have for any woman, whether she is Dominant or not. It is the ultimate vibrator and has brought me to hundreds, if not thousands of orgasms. I own a number of great vibes, including the Eroscillator and several Doc Johnson vibrators. They basically sit in my toy cabinet gathering dust as I play over and over again with the Magic Wand. The Magic Wand is powered via an electrical cord, so no need to worry about batteries. When I use it, I generally put a lot of pressure on it, which tones down the vibrations a bit and makes them feel as if they are deeper within my body. Quite a few attachments have come out in recent years, too. I love using the Magic Wand for tease and denial with j... having him restrained as I apply it to his cock (on high, of course) until he is on the brink, over and over again.


Bondage tape is a must-have for me! Bondage tape has no adhesive, so it is not sticky. Rather, it is made of a material that adheres to itself. It is strong and gives very little when someone strains against it. Unlike rope, it requires no special knowledge of knots and restraints and it is quite safe, so you can play with little concern about circulation. When you are done, you can easily cut it off and discard it or unwind it and use it again. Don't get me wrong- I love, love, love rope, but in terms of quick and simple bondage, the tape cannot be beat.



Mmm... just the thought of impact play is enough to get me aroused! I love spanking, and the feeling of my hand moving through the air and coming down upon j's ass. Unfortunately, after a bit of this, my hand becomes sore. That is when I bring in the crop. The crop is lightweight, easy to use and offers a fantastic slap sound when it impacts flesh. j's ass quickly turns a beautiful shade of crimson under my crop.


Next on my list of must-have toys is the ball gag. The ball gag allows me to shut j up whenever the need arises. It quickly puts him into a more submissive position and is a great way to end arguments if they arise! I like using a ball gag on him before I punish him so that any yelps of pain are transformed into moans with the gag in place. Just looking at him with the gag on is enough to get me going!


The Aneros was one of our first anal toys, and remains one of my favorites. The Aneros is a prostate massager, molded to fit nicely inside the rectum. There is a handle-type piece on the end that is used for easy insertion and removal. When j has the Aneros in place, I use the handle to move it within him. Tilting it up puts great pressure on the prostate and is enough to make him absolutely shiver. I like the Aneros over a traditional butt-plug as it remains firmly in place, even during serious play. Some men report being to have orgasms with no penile stimulation at all when the Aneros is in.


j's collar and anklets come from Eternity Collars. They have held up to quite a bit of abuse and are still going strong. The collar and anklets are both secured with a screw that requires an allen wrench to open. j wears his anklets all the time, only removing them to travel or go through metal detectors (sometimes not even then... which is a funny story I will save for another time). The collar sits rather low on j's neck, so he wears it discreetly throughout the winter. I love being able grab onto his collar and yank him around. So very nice!


When j and I first started down this path of Dominance and submission, I had no interest whatsoever in electric play. After watching a few videos, though, I was intrigued enough to give it a try and I am so glad I did. The Rimba E-Stim Device is a great entry unit to the world of electrical stimulation. I remember the day this toy arrived, attaching the electrodes to my labia and using the device. It's difficult to describe the sensation, but it feels less zappy than tappy (told you it was difficult to describe)! It is safe to say that it can cause incredible pleasure or incredible pain. I purchased the Dual Contact Penis Strap to use on j, and the experience is one of complete control. I can bring j to orgasm without ever touching him at all, simply by turning the dials on the device. I can also bring him a swift zap of pain if I like. It is important to use the e-stim devices with conductive gel or the pleasure can turn to pain at unexpected times!

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Prostate Stimulation & Milking

In our early D/s days, I wanted j to learn to appreciate and crave anal stimulation. I purchased him a prostate stimulator, namely the Aneros. The idea behind the Aneros is that the man can stimulate his prostate himself, by inserting the Aneros and rhythmically contracting the pelvic muscles. The contractions force the Aneros to apply pressure directly on the prostate. The device itself is relatively small, about the size of a finger and once inserted it stays in place.

I have milked j with the Aneros and also with my finger(s). Both are equally effective. At one point I had j in his chastity device for an extended period of time as a punishment for masturbation. Milking him drained him of his seminal fluid while not giving him (much) pleasure. This is important to do with some regularity during extended periods of chastity to maintain prostate health. While prostate stimulation is often used to make a man dry without giving him the pleasure of an orgasm, it can also be used to intensify the orgasm.

Prostate stimulation and milking is a big turn-on of mine. I love pushing j's button, literally, and watching as he tries in desperation to stimulate his cock in some way. Most times when I milk him, I have him tied up or at least cuffed, so he is completely vulnerable. he often bucks his hips up and down repeatedly, trying to get his cock to tap against his abdomen and give him some sort of sensation.

The Aneros is something we revisit from time to time, and I am always thrilled with the results!

Strap-On Fun

It always amazes me how the mind can replay especially intense moments, over and over and over with almost perfect clarity. That is what my mind is doing right now. Last night was a particularly erotic night for sh and I. I began the day by warning him that I would be taking him with my strap on. Whenever possible, I teased sh with little tidbits of what was to come (cum?).

I was sure to reach over and grope my boy several times during the day. I wanted him to know that I was aroused and thinking about what I had planned for him. Like a good sub, he shaved completely without me asking, as he knows I prefer him hairless. I waited and took my shower later in the evening, also shaving completely. I spent a few moments preparing the bedroom - lighting a candle and turning off the lights, turning on some music, and getting some toys out of my cabinet. Because I had not taken him with my strap-on in a while, I knew that I would need to ease him in to the size of my dildo. As I put on my strap-on, I immediately began to get wet. I stood alone in the bedroom, stroking it and anticipating taking him. After catching my breath, I went to the living room to retrieve him. I told him to undress completely, and put his Aneros in (a toy that stimulates the prostate). I smiled as he squirmed about, trying to find a position in which to insert the toy. I then took my leash and attached it to his collar, telling him to crawl on the floor behind me to the bedroom.

Once in the bedroom, I instructed sh to suck my cock. He sucked it with an intensity that I have rarely seen, and I felt my pussy get even wetter. This dildo is of average to slightly large size, so I was pleased to see him get much of it in his mouth. After allowing him this pleasure, I instructed him to get on the bed and put his hands over his head. I strapped him to the bed. I generally like having sh immobile when I play with him. For a while I played with him, allowing him moments of pleasure when I would stroke, lick and even lightly suck his cock. Of course, for each moment of pleasure, I provided several moments of pain. I used my crop on his ass and balls, the Wartenburg pinwheel over his entire body, and (a new one for us) hot wax. The wax was especially exciting for me. I loved watching his body squirm and writhe as the hot wax hit him. I thought he was going to jump off the bed as it hit his cock!

Throughout this time, I occasionally reached down and moved the Aneros about in his ass. I could tell it was stimulating his prostate, as he moaned from the pressure I applied. Now the real fun was to begin! I retrieved from my cabinet a few more toys - a small dildo, a larger inflatable dildo, and some rope. I removed the Aneros and used the small dildo on him a bit. Like the bitch he is, sh complained that the plastic at the base of the dildo was irritating him. I responded by removing it and inserting the much larger inflatable dildo. While it was painful for him at times, he was very receptive to it, and I was pleased when I saw the entire dildo was in him. He gasped each time I pumped it up a bit. Now, with his ass completely stuffed, I began to toy with his cock and balls. I slapped them a bit, then took my rope and bound his cock and balls. I like to bind them tightly and watch as his cock becomes even harder, straining against the rope. With his cock bound, his arms suspended above him, and his stomach covered in dried wax, he truly was a sight. I took several pictures of him like this.

The highlight of the night was taking him with my strap-on. I removed the inflatable dildo, released his arms and instructed him to get on his hands and knees. Since he is significantly taller than I am, taking him this way is always a challenge, but for me it is worth pursuing as I love watching my cock thrust in and out of his ass. My juices flowed freely as I pounded his ass, in and out, with greater and greater intensity. Occasionally I reached around and stroked his cock a bit, still wrapped in rope. I came twice while fucking him, as the feeling and sight of my cock banging his ass was too much for me! Generous mistress that I am, I allowed him to cum as well. I instructed him to go wash up and then come back to bed.

Never one to be satisfied by just a couple of orgasms, I instructed my sub to lick my pussy. I wanted him to realize just how sopping wet I had become. He drank all of my juices, his face covered with them by the time he was done. I had several more orgasms, at one point my pussy quivering so long I did not feel like it would ever stop!

It was a powerful night, one that I hope to recreate again in the near future. I woke this morning feeling more dominant and already fantasizing about what I have in store for him next time!