A Few of My Favorite Things

One of my readers recently messaged me through Pingbox and asked me to post my favorite BDSM-related gear. Here they are, in no particular order:


My all-time favorite D/s toy is the Feeldoe. The Feeldoe is a great alternative to the typical strap-on. It is convenient to use as I don't have to worry about putting on the harness for a strap-on in the middle of play. I can just slip the Feeldoe in and I am ready to go. I have used a number of different strap-ons and my Feeldoe offers significantly more control and certainly far more stimulation to my own body when I take j. It offers clitoral stimulation and vibrates via a small vibrator that can be removed. It's also super-easy to clean. It does require good pelvic control, but do your kegel exercises and you should be all set for a wonderful experience!


The Hitachi Magic Wand is a must-have for any woman, whether she is Dominant or not. It is the ultimate vibrator and has brought me to hundreds, if not thousands of orgasms. I own a number of great vibes, including the Eroscillator and several Doc Johnson vibrators. They basically sit in my toy cabinet gathering dust as I play over and over again with the Magic Wand. The Magic Wand is powered via an electrical cord, so no need to worry about batteries. When I use it, I generally put a lot of pressure on it, which tones down the vibrations a bit and makes them feel as if they are deeper within my body. Quite a few attachments have come out in recent years, too. I love using the Magic Wand for tease and denial with j... having him restrained as I apply it to his cock (on high, of course) until he is on the brink, over and over again.


Bondage tape is a must-have for me! Bondage tape has no adhesive, so it is not sticky. Rather, it is made of a material that adheres to itself. It is strong and gives very little when someone strains against it. Unlike rope, it requires no special knowledge of knots and restraints and it is quite safe, so you can play with little concern about circulation. When you are done, you can easily cut it off and discard it or unwind it and use it again. Don't get me wrong- I love, love, love rope, but in terms of quick and simple bondage, the tape cannot be beat.



Mmm... just the thought of impact play is enough to get me aroused! I love spanking, and the feeling of my hand moving through the air and coming down upon j's ass. Unfortunately, after a bit of this, my hand becomes sore. That is when I bring in the crop. The crop is lightweight, easy to use and offers a fantastic slap sound when it impacts flesh. j's ass quickly turns a beautiful shade of crimson under my crop.


Next on my list of must-have toys is the ball gag. The ball gag allows me to shut j up whenever the need arises. It quickly puts him into a more submissive position and is a great way to end arguments if they arise! I like using a ball gag on him before I punish him so that any yelps of pain are transformed into moans with the gag in place. Just looking at him with the gag on is enough to get me going!


The Aneros was one of our first anal toys, and remains one of my favorites. The Aneros is a prostate massager, molded to fit nicely inside the rectum. There is a handle-type piece on the end that is used for easy insertion and removal. When j has the Aneros in place, I use the handle to move it within him. Tilting it up puts great pressure on the prostate and is enough to make him absolutely shiver. I like the Aneros over a traditional butt-plug as it remains firmly in place, even during serious play. Some men report being to have orgasms with no penile stimulation at all when the Aneros is in.


j's collar and anklets come from Eternity Collars. They have held up to quite a bit of abuse and are still going strong. The collar and anklets are both secured with a screw that requires an allen wrench to open. j wears his anklets all the time, only removing them to travel or go through metal detectors (sometimes not even then... which is a funny story I will save for another time). The collar sits rather low on j's neck, so he wears it discreetly throughout the winter. I love being able grab onto his collar and yank him around. So very nice!


When j and I first started down this path of Dominance and submission, I had no interest whatsoever in electric play. After watching a few videos, though, I was intrigued enough to give it a try and I am so glad I did. The Rimba E-Stim Device is a great entry unit to the world of electrical stimulation. I remember the day this toy arrived, attaching the electrodes to my labia and using the device. It's difficult to describe the sensation, but it feels less zappy than tappy (told you it was difficult to describe)! It is safe to say that it can cause incredible pleasure or incredible pain. I purchased the Dual Contact Penis Strap to use on j, and the experience is one of complete control. I can bring j to orgasm without ever touching him at all, simply by turning the dials on the device. I can also bring him a swift zap of pain if I like. It is important to use the e-stim devices with conductive gel or the pleasure can turn to pain at unexpected times!

Strap-On Fun: There's Nothing Like the Butt

I have decided to begin making Wednesday posts how-to's. The post today is near and dear to my heart, as I truly enjoy taking my submissive anally. For the Dommes who read this and get something out of it, enjoy! And for you submissive men... it will probably be the hottest how-to you will ever read!

Having your man bent over, completely vulnerable, preferably restrained in some way is a feeling that nothing else can match.

First things first- use lots of lube! Messy? Yes, but better than causing tears that might mean time away from play. Trust me- once you take your man this way you will want to do it all the time!

It’s best to start gently. I prefer to have j laying on his back with his knees bent and legs spread. Start with your palm up, and enter his anus with one finger. Tease him a little bit so he doesn’t know when to expect that you might enter, and finally push your finger in. Most likely he’ll gasp… that means you are doing it right.

If your finger is long enough, you may be able to feel the prostate. Curl your finger in as if you are bring it in towards your palm. Although not the norm, per se, j seems to react with pleasurable moans and groans when I swipe slightly to the left and right. If your hands are small (as are mine), insert a second finger before beginning this. I usually toy with j’s anus a bit, tickling up against it with my second finger before inserting it.

With both fingers inside, you can stretch him just a bit. Open your two fingers, spreading him as you spread them. It is likely that you will not be able to open them much. Now you can play a bit- insert a third finger, slide your fingers in and out, tease his cock, slap his balls... have some fun!

When you are ready, pull your fingers out slowly, and position him for insertion. There are a couple ways to do this easily. If you are flexible, as I am, you can leave him in the position he is already in. Open your knees and sit in a W-type fashion. I then lift his legs and put them over my now spread out legs. Line the head up with him, but before you begin to insert, make sure you have some leverage. Now is the time to make sure you have plenty of lube. It is never a bad idea to push just a little more inside of him.

Slowly push into him. Unless he is experienced at anal play or you are feeling particularly sadistic, it is best to insert just the head and wait for his body to adjust to that sensation before pushing more in. Usually it takes just a minute before he is ready. You will know because he will likely begin pushing back towards you, wanting more of you inside of him.

Now thrust deep inside of him. Push your hips forward and back. If you are new to this, it might help to hold the strap-on, right near your body. This will give you a little extra control. As you become more experienced this will not be necessary, and with the proper strap-on you will have just as much control as any man would.

Now that you are taking him, tip your pelvis down slightly. This will make it so that pressure is placed on you, allowing you to enjoy the experience more.

You can play with things- change the speed, pressure, tilt of your body and more to totally change the sensations for you. Relax, enjoy yourself, and take your man like the bitch he is!

Taking My Bitch

j was bent over the bed with his panties around his thighs, a vision that took my breath away. It had been a weekend of torture for j. I had been too busy with my job to deal with his weeks of transgressions but as things settled down at work, they heated up at home. The night before I had put him over my knee and spanked his ass until it was bright red. I had little compassion for his whimpering, and kept reminding him that he was here to serve me. Then I had him hand wash all the floors in the house naked, except for a pair of panties. Since he washed the floor on his hands and knees, I had an excellent view. Seeing him like that got me incredibly aroused.

Now here he was, ass in the air, practically begging to be taken. I walked around the bed and slapped him several times in the face with my Feeldoe. I ordered him to suck it. "Get it wet, bitch.... it's going to be the only lube you get!" He sucked the cock, licking and slurping on it as I moved it in and out of his mouth. After taunting him this way for a few minutes, I was ready to take him.

I placed the tip of my cock against him, slowly entering him. Normally I put the head in quickly and allow him time to get used to the sensation before continuing on, but this time I watched as he gradually opened up to take in the head of my cock. He cried out a bit in pain, but I just laughed at him. As my cock entered him deeper, I could feel the pressure of the Feeldoe inside of me, and finally, all the way in, I gasped as it rubbed against my clit.

It wasn't long before I felt j's body pushing back towards me, wanting more and more of my cock inside of him. "You want it, don't you, bitch?," I asked. "Oh yes Ma'am, " he cried. I gave it to him, taking him hard and fast, watching my cock slide in and out of him.

I could feel my own juices dripping down my thighs and despite great control of my pelvic muscles it was getting tough to hold the bulb of the Feeldoe inside as I got wetter. I took it out of me told j to get on his back. I know this disappointed him a bit as he was enjoying rubbing his cock against the bed as I took him. Still, he was eager to please me and had his tongue out of his mouth, eager to lick me, as I lowered myself down on his face.

I rode his face with abandon, knowing his entire head was probably getting wet. I felt my climax building and grinded my pussy against his face. My hips began bucking and j struggled to keep his tongue aligned with my pussy as I came on his face. I moaned and screamed for what had to be a couple minutes- the orgasm just kept on coming!

As my climax was finally receding, I moved my body lower against j. "You wanna put your cock inside me? You wanna cum inside my pussy, bitch?"

"Only if it pleases you, Ma'am." he responded, but I knew he was eager for release.

"Too bad, maybe next time," I said with a grin, as I headed off to the shower.

* To those followers who are waiting to here what happened on my weekend with two submissives, I will be posting the next 'installment' soon. I want to give j some time to catch up with posting about it on his blog.

Feeldoe Revisited

We have had a Feeldoe for a couple of years, but have only used it about a half dozen times. Although I really love the feeling of the Feeldoe inside me as I penetrate j, it has proven difficult to control and often feels like it might slide out of me. For those reasons, I generally prefer to use a traditional strap-on. But- the Feeldoe is so damn sexy! Yesterday, I decided to give it another try.

I had been teasing j for a couple of days, telling him that I was going to be inside him soon, grabbing his ass. I love taunting him like this...letting him know what is coming, but not when.

I began by telling j to take off his clothes and get out some lube. I instructed him to lube up his ass, and finger it for a few minutes. I simply sat back and watched, enjoying the view as he moved his body about, trying to get deeper penetration. I then allowed him to penetrate himself with a dildo. After a couple of minutes he had it inserted all the way, and I knew I was just moments away from being inside of him.

Instead of the usual strap-on, I pulled out the Feeldoe. I think part of the reason it worked so well this time was that I used a very thin layer of lube. I put the bulb into my wet pussy, and stroked my new cock. It is a beautiful royal blue color, and while obviously not realistic, it is sexy nonetheless. j laid on his back on the bed, pulling his knees to his chest. I slowly inserted my cock into his asshole, and began fucking him in earnest. In and out I went, over and over. I felt the Feeldoe deep inside me as I thrusted deeper into him. I stroked his cock as I plunged mine deeper into him.

The feeling was very intense, and this time I had no sensation of the Feeldoe coming out from inside of me. We ended up making love later on in the day. Both experiences were wonderful, and a great way to spend part of the day.