Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Proper Training of Men, Submissive or Not

A lot of my 'vanilla' friends ask me why it is that j treats me so well, and how they can find a man who will treat them that way. Even though few of them know the nature of our relationship, I tell them that it is important to train your man so that he knows how to meet your needs. I believe that most men truly want to please their lover, but they simply do not know how.

Even though j is very attentive, I have needed to train him in many areas. The first time he gave me a pedicure it was a mess! There was fingernail polish all over my toes and he hurt me several times in the process. Did I give up on the idea of him doing my nails? Nope! I instructed him to look online and read up on how to give a proper pedicure. I also asked him to go out and purchase the necessary implements. The next time he gave me a pedicure, it was much better! Now, he can do it as well as any professional. So, Women of the world, do not give up on your men! Take the time to teach them how to please you and you will reap the rewards!

16 comments:

  1. My Mistress runs into the same problem with Her friends. She wants to tell them how awesome female-led relationships are but She is afraid of being judged so She rarely discloses what is actually going on. Interestingly enough, we went through the same learning curve with manicure. The first few times were horrible but now I am getting better. The threat of punishment also helps to focus on not screwing up too much.

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  2. I find there are many things my wife wants me to do that I do not have the skills for, but consider myself to be intelligent and able to be taught. I have to get out of my comfort zone to do so, but for the cause of pleasing my wife, I find I have the motivation to do so. I took about three times to get the manicure and pedicure to a satisfactory level. I am still struggling with ironing though and have not even begun to figure out how to use the sewing machine.

    I honestly do not know what my wife says to her friends about our WLM. I am really only told things on a need-to-know basis. I know her best friend is aware, but beyond that I am in the dark.

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  3. subservient husband-

    Their is a great video online with instructions on how to iron:
    http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-iron-a-shirt

    As an added bonus, the girl in the video has a nice British accent. : )

    Regarding coming out to friends- even though we have only told a couple of close friends, I believe the nature of our relationship is becoming more and more apparent to those around us. We have a great marriage, but it seems like our friends struggle with crummy relationships.

    I heard j on the phone the other night telling one of our friends (who is a big ol' submissive, even though he doesn't know it!) that he needed to find a woman who was going to take control in their relationship. So even though we are not 'out' per se, we are always willing to share the not-so-sexy details of what works for us.

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  4. Hi
    I am happy to have found your blog, My wife Lo7 and i are just trying to find our roles in the WLM life, we are learning so much from blogs like yours
    thank you

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  5. SF,

    thank you very much for the ironing video. This is exactly what I needed and it was very thoughtful of you to think of providing it.

    -SH

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  6. It is refreshing to see your positive attitude. Instead of complaining about his inaptitude, you teach him to do it right, so that he serves you appropriately. Good for you, and for him.

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  7. Ma'am wish my wife had a friend like you. for a man life spent not serving his wife is not well-lived but how to get my wife to do that, even a suggestion of any such thing will make her gross out.

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  8. Now all I need to do is find a man and train him…
    Great post!
    I’m looking forward to reading more about Dominant Women and the men who love them.

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  9. Thank you for a good blog

    I have very recently started to be interested in having a female led relationship. Your blog is inspiring.

    I have painted my woman’s toenails once but wasn’t really satisfied with the result, have been thinking about learning more to do a better job. The same when it comes to massage.

    I have just started a blog, writing about handing over control to my woman. She is very much vanilla but I’m hoping that me giving here periods of days when she will be in charge will make here feel more comfortable in being served and encourage her to start giving me commands.

    What’s your opinion on our small progress?

    Encouraging comments are very welcome.

    http://servingbeautifulhelene.blogspot.se

    Kind regards

    Pseudonym

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  10. New here. Need advice on husband Reformation and obedience training.

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  11. So what kind of trouble is he creating for you?
    Have you followed the steps we e-mailed you?
    Including the wheel?
    You do give him weekly discipline sessions, right.

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  12. So what kind of trouble is he creating for you?
    Have you followed the steps we e-mailed you?
    Including the wheel?
    You do give him weekly discipline sessions, right.

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  13. Yes we are doing weekly discipline most of the time need help in the way of letting him know how his boss he thinks he is the man

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  14. Well of course he's the man
    Why would we want anything less.
    Let's be real we want a strong minded man. Out in the world he is what's keeping us safe. The plan should be to control that man.

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  15. This one like to be unruly eny chance he gets

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